There is something really shameful going on in some marriages. We have men who mistreat their wives either through physical violence, insults, infidelity, shame, financial suppression or a warped interpretation of submission in marriage; this makes the wife not to desire sex and shamefully the husband forces himself on her sexually with the thinking of “I am married and should get my conjugal rights no matter what”.
The wives who get raped tend to stay because they have concluded that society will judge them harshly for denying their husband sex and they have been damaged so much that they feel “Hey, it’s just sex. Let him do what he wants and leave me alone” no matter how painful it is. Some don’t have the strength to push him away because they get raped in the middle of the night whilst asleep and the husband is overpowering.
Their husbands rape them at their weakest during sleep and they wake up to a man inside them penetrating. For some, the damage goes deep because as their husbands rape them, they are reminded of how they were raped many years back by their uncles, cousins, pastor, brother, male friend, father or stepfather. Yes, it can be difficult being a woman in a society that says the man’s ne come first and the woman’s voice doesn’t matter as much.
A man of honor desires a woman’s confident YES; he doesn’t force it or assumes it. He shows her respect to the point that she invites him to be with her, to know her and to explore experiences with her.
Even in marriage, a man of honor treats his wife so good that she says “Make love to me”. Women make love with their heart, take care of her heart and she will passionately give you her time, future, body and essence. A man of honor prides himself in giving his wife sexual pleasure and doesn’t use her to get himself an orgasm.
Her YES means YES, her NO means NO.
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